Ten Habits of Unlikable People
Often our habits have been established and set by the time we enter the workforce. However, according to Dr. Travis Bradberry (award-winning co-author of Emotional Intelligence 2.0 and co-founder of TalentSmart®), certain habits can determine if we are likable, and based on his research, can affect our performance and productivity at work.
“In a study conducted at UCLA, subjects rated over 500 descriptions of people based on their perceived significance to likeability. The top-rated descriptors had nothing to do with being gregarious, intelligent, or attractive (innate characteristics). Instead, the top descriptors were sincerity, transparency, and capable of understanding (another person).
These adjectives, and others like them, describe people who are skilled in the social side of emotional intelligence. TalentSmart research data from more than a million people shows that people who possess these skills aren’t just highly likable; they outperform those who don’t by a large margin.
Likeability is so critical to your success at work that it can completely alter your performance. A University of Massachusetts study found that managers were willing to accept an auditor’s argument with no supporting evidence if he or she was likable, and Jack Zenger found that just 1 in 2000 unlikeable leaders were considered effective by their colleagues.” – Dr. Bradberry
While we may have established habits, there could be a few that are causing our co-workers to avoid us at all costs or even worse, leading our boss to ask us to find employment elsewhere. Ridding oursevles of bad habits and making a conscious effort to create good ones is essential for reaching our goals of becoming a higher performer. Regular self-checks and the adjustments are necessary for growth, and according to Dr. Bradberry, this is in our control to change.
“Too many people succumb to the mistaken belief that being likable comes from natural, unteachable traits that belong only to a lucky few—the good-looking, the fiercely social, and the incredibly talented. It’s easy to fall prey to this misconception. In reality, being likable is under your control, and it’s a matter of emotional intelligence (EQ).” – Dr. Travis Bradberry
Regular self-assessments should be practiced, avoiding becoming the coworker that no one likes to work with or be around. And, based on Dr. Bradberry’s assessment, enable us to outperform our co-workers.
From his article, originally posted on LinkedIn, Dr. Bradberry has determined that unlikable people all share these traits. Read the 10 traits HERE